THE EMPTY SOUL OF A BUSY LIFE

I used to think I knew what I wanted in life, I had a clear vision of my future and I had all the knots tied tight ready to support my next step. I was seen as a strong, unbreakable, brave and successful person. Anything couldn’t go wrong, every aspect of my life was following a pre-defined path. Everything had to be always aligned - that was the way to go…

…Until I found this one of the most dangerous traps anyone can get into.

We tend to think that people in difficulties are those without plans, not knowing what to do in life or just living by inertia. But wait, isn’t this I've just described also being stuck? I would have totally disagreed with myself a couple of years ago, when I had a rope around my eyes and I was following my own plan as a slave of my own words and permanent thoughts.

It only took me a real breakdown to find out I was as lost as anyone else.

Tears ran down my face, unable to accept being out of track. That feeling of failure, impotency, disconcert, fear of the unknown. Have you ever felt petrified to listen to your contradictory thoughts?.

For these people, feelings are something secondary, just simply because feelings depend on the actions and the actions go first. Having a plan that helps you achieve things makes you successful, so apparently there is nothing to worry about. “You have done well, you will arrive far”.

BUT that means that there’s no space for something new.

Most of them are not even aware of it. School, university, stable relationship, job, car, family, house, retirement or “I don’t cry, I’m not afraid, I don’t accept this, I don’t do this or that, this is the way I am, what are they going to think?. It’s the other side of the coin. How can a person with an apparent stable life would need help?.

Simply because they take life for granted, basing their happiness on achieving success instead of taking care of what life really gives them, LIFE.

I remember my first confrontation with myself. How could I move forward emotionally?. One of the pieces of my perfect domino was shaking and I could see it all falling apart. I was terrified, I was stuck and I needed help.

It requires courage, real courage to face yourself, to have a breakthrough and break new.

Being like this is a trap, you don’t allow yourself to be free, to experiment with your feelings, to accept them and approve them as right. I see many people having a continuous fight with themselves and complaining they are not truly happy. Being in a certain way, a defined you with a defined way of thinking or acting is living trapped in a specific moment of your life when that was “right”.

Simply ask yourself at the end of the day if you are really happy with what you are doing with your life. That kind of happiness that makes you lose track of time. And do it for some days...

It requires courage, real courage to rebirth and seek the truth within yourself.

For me it all started with a simple question, WHY NOT?. Every time my brain would throw a protective thought, I started defying myself trying to answer that simple question;

WHY NOT?

Life is all about finding the balance with who we are

in each single moment of our lives.

Life is knowing that you might be lost tomorrow again but having faith in yourself.

Perfection in any form doesn’t exist.

Perfection is accepting that everything in this life is imperfect.

Acknowledge every feeling you experience and understand happiness is found from inside out.

Be free, make mistakes, fall, rise up, begin again over and over again. Be humble with yourself, be gentle, be kind, accept the change and grow with it because any time, any minute, life will challenge you.

Like a river, life gloriously flows - we will never know to which direction is going to take us. Let things go and GROW. Only then, you will be gloriously flowing with it and enjoying every single step of this journey we call life.

I saw it in the eyes of one of most successful friends I have, the tears in his eyes when I asked him to BEGIN AGAIN. If you look carefully within yourself, you will also find the way.

Are you ready for this?

Enjoy the process.

A special person