RISE UP, ALWAYS

-THIS IS ONE OF THE STEP BY STEP TO HAPPINESS, ENJOY THE PROCESS-

Honesty, fairness, be true to yourself, love unconditionally, compassion.

These are the values my mum has and the values she gave to me. I did not realize how important they were until I saw the power of these values.

My family and I are apart, they live in Italy, I have just moved to Madrid from London. We try to stay in contact as much as we can but as you may understand, it is not the same. We don’t live life the same way we would do if we were together. We content ourselves with what we have and sometimes that is the key.

If any of you have the same relationship with your parents, you would understand how difficult is to be far away when things are not right . A lot went wrong recently in my family and both my parents had to face difficult moments. These are the times when it is really painful staying away from them because I would like to support them even with just a simple hug.

My mum is an example to me, she is the strongest woman I have ever met.

She is so strong; I need to type it again so you can understand. STRONG.

What are the qualities of a strong person?

Would you think of someone that never suffers?

That is not the case, my mum suffers, like anybody, then she rises up, ALWAYS RISES UP and takes a lesson with her ALL THE TIME.

She thought herself the most valuable lesson, TO EMBRACE THE SUFFERANCE, LOOK AT IT WITH ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE AND LEARN FROM IT TO BECOME STRONGER.  

I was analyzing her this morning when we had this beautiful conversation about her feeling good with herself. I won’t go into details of what happened, it is not relevant to my point. She was feeling good regardless of what happened in the last period. She was pointing to me all the time she felt that excruciating pain, an emotional pain type until she literally said ‘I thought I could die from it’.

Many of us can relate to that kind of deep emotional pain, most of the time is tougher than physical pain. She said to me that only when you go through it many times, you realise how to really get out of it.

I stopped her and I invite her to reflect on the effort she put to rise up and try to deal with her pain to feel better. I said to her that it is valuable the fact that she did not decide to give up but INSTEAD SHE TOOK THE DECISION TO RISE UP.

That is very important. She did not decide to just lay down in bed and cry, she decided it was time for her to feel better and carry on with her life. most importantly she could take that moment as a lesson for herself and learn from it.

HOW POWERFUL WAS THAT!?

I let her speak, I was listening with full attention, I could not miss any of her words, it was magnificent listening to her. She then said something very important;

The most important part of the process was being honest with herself.

She realized that what made the process easier was to be honest with herself and acting accordingly. She mentioned the hard decisions she had to take. She felt she was being fair to herself and she was doing good to her persona as in that moment SHE FELT SHE HAD TO LOOK AFTER HERSELF, THAT IT WAS THE RIGHT DECISION.

I saw her resilient nature, I saw her values saving her, I saw pure life and pure responsibility.

I invited her to think about the effort she made all these years to build her life according to her values.

Honesty, fairness, being true to herself, loving unconditionally, compassion. She was being honest and true to herself and to others, she thought that being fair was a form of respect, she invests her love toward her family and she is getting back love (a genuine type of loving) and she was compassionate toward others.

Taking into consideration these values and all the efforts she made to build them, I have no doubt she is a strong woman.

This is not a case she could rise up all the times she felt down.

Her deep values saved her. When you have such strong values like my mum you can turn any negative perspective into a good one. The biggest risk is that when these values lack and you go through a difficult period you just give up and you get depressed.

The excruciating pain my mum felt, without her values, would have been a wave of too big to surmount.

It is too important to look inside ourselves and discover our values. They are the reasons, the fire of our life. They give a sense to this life.

It’s like we are preparing for a war and we need to be equipped. Now it comes the dilemma, the saddest thing.

We would think that the majority of people lives to find happiness in their life.

That is not the case. Why?

IT TAKES EFFORT TO BUILD A RANGE OF VALUES ACCORDINGLY TO OUR PERSONA.

IT TAKES EFFORT AND TIME TO WORK TOWARD OUR HAPPINESS.

IT TAKES BEING TRUE TO OURSELVES AND SOMETIMES IT IS VERY PAINFUL DOING THAT BECAUSE WE OFTEN DO NOT LIKE WHO WE REALLY ARE.

IT TAKES EFFORT TO BE HAPPY.

How much do we have to work to have a happy life?

A lot.

What are the results?

Immense.

The beautiful part is that we have the choice to do it from now. Begin now. I am so passionate about helping others, to find their happiness that I am contented just simply writing about it.

I want to help you being more aware of what you can achieve through happiness and choosing the life you really want.

Don’t play safe, it won’t make you happy.