PLAY THE VICTIM, YOU LOSE

-THIS IS ONE OF THE STEP BY STEP TO HAPPINESS, ENJOY THE PROCESS-

‘Depression is the belief that your actions will be futile’ Selingman.

I am going to be straightforward this time. You are not the victim.

No matter what happened to you in life,

YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

A victim is that person that feels that his life is bad because someone or something caused him all of that.

The victim is that person that does not take a single chance to change anything in his life. The victim does not take responsibility for anything.

The victim will complain a lot, until your ears explode, but would not move a finger to change the situation.

A victim will always try to pull you down.

For the victim, there is nothing he has done wrong, it's always someone else faults.

I am sick and tired of these people and believe me, I know many, very close. It is true, life does put us in front of many difficult situations, sometimes they are very hard even to think of.

Sometimes the pain we go through at this moment is just so much the heart feels like is going to break in hundreds of pieces in a moment or another. We all had those moments for various reasons. I am not going to list the reasons why we suffered, the thing is that we all know very well what we suffered and what we went through.

This is not an article about ways to suffer, this an article to say something completely different.

You are not the only one suffering, you are not the only one thinking that what happened is unfair but we all have a choice. We can decide to stay in our bed, in the dark, staring at the ceiling because we do not have the strength to face the world or we can just face the world.

Life goes on, always, time cannot be stopped, the watch clicks second after seconds and all this time is precious. There is no cure for excruciating pain, we all know what is like, we can only go through it, but the decisions we take from that moment defines who we are.

Cry, stay with your emotions, they are the most important part of our life.

The good and the bad ones belong to our world, they are there for a reason, they are the reasons why we feel alive.

From the most excruciating pain to the peak of happiness they are all states of life, pure life motion.

I am saying just be happy no matter what happens, I am saying we always have the choice to chose for our best.

This is a very important topic for me. I blessed every single day of my life, I wish I could do more to enjoy even more.

Sometimes we give this life for granted and in that exact moment, we kill it.

Life is not for granted, It is a splendid duty. I call it duty because I believe life should be celebrated more.

I feel and I have felt many difficult periods in my life but I cannot explain how easy it is to forget them just with one single moment of happiness.

A single moment of happiness to wash a full day of pain.

It makes so much difference to work towards our happiness. It does not make sense playing the victim and living in a world of victimizing.

It is time wasted, no matter what happened, a moment playing the victim is a moment taken for a chance to be happy.

This is something that really moves me. It moves me seeing people wasting the most beutiful periods of their life and not even realizing, not realizing how much beauty they are missing, or how much life they are missing.

They are people they cannot look even at their potential, too occupied worrying about what made them feel bad instead of looking at ways to feel better. I cannot stand this, it is wasted potential, it is a waste of life. Do you want to know a ‘stupid’ reality? It takes courage to choose for our happiness.

I realized that. I did not want to believe that before, because I could not believe that people would not make the effort to be happy. But that it is.

I dream of a world full of people working toward their happiness. Being mindful, I am not saying I dream of a world with only happy people, that would not exist, that would be utopistic.

We would not enjoy happiness if we would not know its opposite really. That is a big dream of mine and I am going to work for it to happen, I won’t wait for the opportunity to come but I will make sure I will do everything I can to accomplish my goal.